Have you ever wondered how to be more classy and elegant like a Queen? Do you want to learn how to be more feminine?
I personally wanted to learn how to become more feminine. I was one of the women so focused on my career and getting ahead in life that I never actually took into consideration what it means to be feminine. I didn’t have a good fashion sense and was extremely disorganized in the way I managed my home.
I felt as if society frowns down on femininity and that I must step more into my masculine role to get ahead in the workforce. That isn’t the case at all. You can be both feminine and masculine in the workplace and your personal life.
Read on to learn how to be a feminine woman!
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Be willing to be vulnerable
You don’t need to be fully independent. As a society, we need to become interdependent. People who have problems asking for help struggle more than people who are interdependent. Interdependent women work hard to get to where they need to, but are not afraid to ask for help along the way.
Humans were never created to do things completely by themselves. We all need each other, so we need to get over our pride and ask for help when we need it.
Also, be comfortable with expressing your emotions. Many people do not express their emotions and stay in that masculine energy that they must always be strong. This is self-sabotaging behavior. You will hold in all your sadness and anger which isn’t good for your mental wellness.
People love to connect with those that show their emotions because they seem more authentic and easy to relate to.
Practice good hygiene every single day
This is one of the most important things to cover in how to be more feminine. Make sure to shower, do your hair, brush your teeth, wash your face, wear deodorant and put perfume on everyday. In addition, take care of your nails and have a self-care routine that goes beyond the basics whether that be going to the nail salon, getting your hair done at the hair shop or getting a facial.
Investing in your hygiene is so important because if you smell really bad, no one is going to want to be around you. Carry items in your purse like deodorant and perfume for times when you unexpectedly start to smell. Your perfume and makeup should not be too heavy.
Choose a more natural look for makeup and softer perfumes like vanilla or floral scents. Carry lotion to make sure you have soft skin.
Upgrade your style with clothes that fit your body type
Avoid always dressing in sweatpants and try dressing up more. Plan your outfits for each day of the week ahead of time to avoid this. So for days you are rushing out the house, you’re not looking like a complete mess.
Find clothes that are made for your body type and make you feel good. Anyone can have a good style and not everything will look great on you that looks good on someone else. Try on different clothes and take note of what makes your best features pop.
For example, I tend to wear too much black and it makes me look too plain. But when I wear a pink flowy dress, I get a lot more compliments on how cute it looks. Dresses, skirts, and heels definitely help to give a more feminine vibe.
Add some accessories that you like such as good quality necklaces, bracelets, rings, earrings, purses, scarfs, and sunglasses.
Improve your posture
If you walk all frumpy, you appear as though you are insecure and don’t care about how you appear to others. When you stand up straight and change your walk, you appear more confident. Get a tall mirror and see how you naturally stand everyday.
In the long run, it’s great to practice your posture because as people age, they start to hunch over. You accelerate that process by having bad posture. So this is another reason to start practicing!
Other things you could try is sitting with your legs together to the side or crossed.
“There is more to feminine charm than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much femininity, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.” – Audrey Hepburn
Watch your language, speak softly and control your temper
This generation uses a lot of cuss words and harsh words when speaking with each other. I feel this is too normalized that people feel comfortable cussing out anybody these days. When I think of femininity, this isn’t on the checklist.
Try to watch what you say to others and don’t say cruel things. When you get an argument, stay calm and communicate with maturity.
Another thing to avoid is gossip. It is unkind to talk bad about someone behind their back. When I think of feminine women, they don’t talk obnoxiously loud and annoying. They pace themselves in their speech and have consistency in the way they talk.
Treat everyone with kindness
Shift away from vulgar language and actions and start treating strangers with kindness. I like to reflect on what Disney Princesses and Audrey Hepburn were like as examples. They treated others with kindness even when the other treated them poorly.
People are too quick to snap back these days and say all kinds of things back out of anger. But, I believe that people should maintain their composure and embarrass them with kindness. Don’t return rudeness with rudeness.
Sometimes things do get out of hand and you need to defend yourself. But most situations should be handled with maturity. Your actions can come back and bite you in the butt.
And one other thing you should do to be more feminine is being there for your friends and helping strangers in need. Give them thoughtful gifts without them having to ask. Make someone’s day who otherwise wouldn’t have received anything.
Keep your home clean
You wouldn’t want to be feminine only on the outside. Your home should also be kept tidy for when you have guests over. If you invite someone and you forgot that you had dishes from the day before and now they have bugs on them, that would be a very unpleasant sight.
It’s best to clean your home every single day and have a set routine if you’re too busy. A little here and there goes a long way. Clean each dish that you use right after you have your meal. Sweep the floors everyday, wipe the bathroom counters in the mornings.
If you clean in sections everyday, you won’t have to clean a huge mess at the last minute.
Learn Dining Etiquette
Not a lot of younger people know how to have a fancy meal with others. Where does the glass go? How do you eat without creating a mess? The way we handle our food shows our femininity too.
It is unpleasant when someone stuffs food in their mouth quickly and talks. Dining etiquette is an important lesson to learn how to become more feminine. You might not think people are paying attention to the way you eat, but most likely they are.
I always notice whether someone has good dining etiquette and get grossed out when they eat like they haven’t had a meal in a week.
Smile More and Appear More Friendly
You cannot appear feminine if you’re always looking like you want to attack someone. Many people have a resting face that doesn’t look friendly and you should learn how to be aware of your facial expressions. It will help you be less intimidating and make better connections.
Smile when you make eye contact with others in conversation. Avoid crossing your arms and have more open body language to appear more welcoming.
Seek out knowledge and continue to read
Keep learning even after completing your education. The more rich your vocabulary is, the more intelligent you will seem. Choose books outside your normal genre. Try the classics and romantic books that portray feminine women you admire and want to be more like.
Read books on philosophy, cooking, home economics, etc. The more you read, the more feminine skills you will learn and also put them into practice.
What feminine skills do you need to improve in?