Did you recently have a relationship end and are wondering how to glow up after a breakup?
Or has it been a long time and you’re still not over that person? It feels like no matter what you do, you can’t get over them.
You make a little bit of progress, but then you backpedal into your past habits.
You have symptoms of your heart being in deep pain that you can’t remove and possibly low self-esteem.
Don’t pressure yourself to get over them as fast as others do. You’re on your own timeline.
One of the best ways to get over a breakup is learning to love yourself and building your self-confidence.
You will come out stronger if you’re brave enough to put in the work.
The most important step is to remove them from your life first
The first step to glowing up after a breakup is removing everything that reminds you of the person that you broke up with like that necklace they got you.
Unfriend them, delete their texts, and block their number. This is the most important step in your healing process.
Do NOT keep texting them or meeting up with them. Focus only on yourself.
Also, avoid immediately jumping into another relationship. You have to heal yourself first. Don’t hurt another person.
You will think about all the good times and miss them. You will feel like texting them and asking them more questions for closure. Stop it.
You don’t need someone for validation, you do that for yourself!
Write down everything you didn’t like about them
When you break up, you start thinking of all the great memories you had with them and don’t focus on the bad as much. You broke up, so there have to be reasons why the relationship was not for you.
List some things that you didn’t like about them, especially if they were dealbreakers to who you wanted to end up with long-term.
Every time you think about them again and find yourself feeling nostalgic, remind yourself why they weren’t the person for you.
You need to reframe your mindset and not think about things through rose-colored glasses. Take things as they are.
Then make a list of what you will NOT tolerate in your next relationship.
Make a list of the person you want to become
It’s time to focus on your transformation. It’s time to upgrade yourself, starting with your mindset.
One of the best ways of how to glow up after a breakup is deep self-reflection and goal setting.
If you were in a toxic relationship, you need to figure out what attracted that and work on overcoming your blockages.
This is your time to self-reflect on why you attract these types of people into your life and what qualities you could have to develop to turn these people away from you.
This is the time to work on learning how to love yourself and becoming confident in prioritizing your needs if you were a people pleaser.
Start uplifting yourself every day by saying, “I’m confident. I love myself. And I’m going to become the person I always wanted to be.”
Start a social media detox
This time is to focus on you. Stop scrolling for hours on TikTok or watching a ton of videos on YouTube.
Start leveling up your mental health, overcome childhood traumas, and work on achieving your life goals.
Set a time limit of how long you will take a break from social media. You don’t want to see people posting about their relationships when you’re still trying to get over yours.
Take the time to grieve
You can’t just go all out in trying to get over someone. There will be times when you feel like crying and doing nothing.
So when you feel like that, make space for you to feel your feelings. It will be much harder to overcome them if you don’t recognize them first.
It gets tough before it becomes better. You may not feel like you’ll ever overcome this, but you will when you put in the work.
If you block out your emotions and try to stay completely logical, you will become emotionally unavailable.
Make a bucket list of things you always wanted to do
When you were in a relationship, did you not prioritize things that you wanted to do? Now that you’re single, you probably have a lot more availability to spend your time how you’d like.
What is that one thing you’ve always wanted to do but were scared of? Now is the time to overcome your fears and find yourself.
For your bucket list, make a list of fun things to do and things you want to overcome.
Go on a solo date to somewhere you always wanted to go
You don’t have to have a partner to be able to go on dates. Take yourself out to places! This will help you feel more independent and prioritize your needs.
Treat yourself the way YOU want to be treated in a relationship. Learn your love languages and give yourself the love you always wished you got while in the relationship.
Go to the museum, take yourself out for dinner, have a picnic, or book a solo vacation.
Spoil yourself based on your love languages
People often say to learn your partner’s love languages to build a connection. Start building a connection with yourself and find out your own love languages.
There are five love languages: quality time, acts of service, gifts, physical touch, and words of affirmation.
Here are activity ideas for how to glow up after a breakup:
Quality Time: Treat yourself to a nice dinner at a restaurant, have an aesthetic picnic, go on vacation
Acts of Service: Complete something that you always felt held you back
Gifts: Buy yourself something you always wanted
Physical touch: Go to the spa, get a pedicure, create a cozy space in your room
Words of Affirmation: Write yourself a love letter, make an empowering playlist
Bring out your inner artist
Sometimes you need to slow down and take your mind off what’s happening. This is often why bringing out your creativity is often recommended.
Working on art projects is a great stress reliever.
Some fun activities you can try:
Update your wardrobe for the new season
Just like how you do a Spring house cleaning, do a seasonal update of your wardrobe.
You might be tired of wearing the same things. Wearing something that makes you feel more confident and reflects the kind of person you want to be can help you visualize your future self.
Go through your closet and get rid of clothes you no longer like. Then mix and match pieces you haven’t considered.
If you want to try something new, consider going shopping to add to your current outfits.
Follow a daily workout routine
It doesn’t have to be an extensive workout, especially if you have not exercised much before. If you make your goals too high, you will be discouraged to achieve them and give up.
Start with 10 mins per day of exercising and choose a specific workout you want to do. Do the same things to build a habit so it doesn’t feel like too much effort.
Don’t start out with the hard workouts. Gradually ease into it with the beginner-level ones.
Breakups are hard and you’ll feel like crap for a while. But you know what?
Do you remember how you were before you got into a relationship? You were fine before them, right?
You can get to that place again.
Life is full of learning experiences that will help you grow and become the best version of yourself.
You might be afraid if you will ever find your happiness again or if you will find the right person in the future. You will.
Just take the time to focus on yourself now and the rest will follow. And remember you’re not glowing up for them. You’re glowing up for yourself.
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What are some of your favorite ways of how to glow up after a breakup?